my new column: Boys vers. girls or why the genders still live on seperated planets

just a few days ago the new alley cat issue came out and is now availeble in stores all over germany..even though i liked alley cat before this issue is especially great for me since it includes the first episode of my new column-series "männersache"...this column is also very special to me since i had wonderful fellow writers, artists and ikons such as donna george storey, susie bright, midori, kristina lloyd ect, who were so generous to let me quote them in my column..a big thank you for this..you really acompanied me awsomly:-)

and yes..thats a vibrator add next to my head/next page..its by the brand fun factory and i actually didnt payed attention to the add until i showed the column to my grandmother and she asked me what those multicolored thingies are...ventilator i said..without blushing

some more surfing...

you can finde the foreword of the surferboys-anthology over at authorsden.com ..which is also very very nice for me since my story is mentioned in the foreword..i know that might is silly of me but it really makes me happy..:-)

surferboys foreword by editor neil plakcy


On my first visit to California, many years ago, I spent an afternoon at Huntington Beach, watching a line of slim young guys in wetsuits dare the crashing waves. I must have taken a whole roll of film of those neoprene-clad surf masters.

Years later, when I set out to write my first mystery novel, Mahu, I wanted my hero to be a surfer. I was entranced by their mastery of the waves—and how innately sexy I thought they were.

Four novels later, I still think surfers are sexy—and obviously many of you do, too, because I received lots of great submissions for this anthology.

When you think about surfing, you probably think of Hawaii first—I know I do, because of my mystery series set there. But there are great waves all around the world, from Australia to the Jersey shore, Cocoa Beach to California. The stories here span the globe, but what they all have in common is handsome, sexy surfers who love other men.

From the romantic lyricism of Danielle de Santiago’s “Sleeping in the Sand” to the down and dirty sexiness of Bearmuffin’s “T-Room Surfers,” there’s something for every surf lover here. You’ll journey to Australia, Tunisia, Oregon, Cape Cod, and Malibu among many other delightful destinations.

Surf’s up dude—hope this book does the same for you!

my first time

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60 strockes with the whip..and i dont mean the sexy ones

the face behind the story: rosana al-jami

the masked men grabbed her at her hands and ankles. You bitch will suffer one hissed through the black fabric of his mask. they dragged her out of the room. she tried to free herself..to escape..screamed and kicked but the men where stronger. outside the light and the heat of the day bit into her. a crowd were already waiting and lurked while the men pushed her down into the dust of the market place..

my dear fellow smut writers...
we all do it...we write about sex..about sex we had..about sex we would like to have and about the sex we just imagine...we do it no matter what..for the most of us it doesent matter if our work is published..read..if anybody knows what we do or not...
and we know that it is "forbidden" by our societys standarts,..because sex is something that happends behind closed doors and shouldnt be dragged into the light..still we write about what ever tickles our brain..but would you still do it if it was really forbidden by law? the few lines in the beginning of this post could be the beginning of a sm-story or could be a snipped from a horror-anthology..but its not..somewhere this will be rerality ...
Rosanna al-Jami ..a 22 year old journalist from saudi-arabi didnt even wrote about sex but helped to prepare a talkshow for the LBC chanel...a tv show in which a man spoke open about himself having sex with a female neighbour and also presendet some sex toys in front of the camera...
this tv show actually was a shock to the system..maybe not for our standarts but for the standarts of the islamic society...

so Rosanna al-Jami has been accused for preparing this show and also for promoting the show in the internet..her punishment will be 60!!! strokes with the whip...

the man who spoke open about his sexlife has lost his job at a government-runned airline..and has been judget/punished with 5 years in jail!!! and 1000!!! strokes with the whip...

i m just surprised that they didnt try to finde the neighbour he had sex with to punish her too..maybe by condmn her to hard labour...or shaving her head and splitting her nose and pinning her on a scarlett letter...

i thought for a while about writing about this subject...even though a many of my friends tried to keep me from putting this on my blog but i cant look away...all of you my fellow writers could be in the shoes and situation of Rosanna al-Jami .....what do you think..what would you do?

out of a sudden.../ does your mama know

just the other day we spoke about keeping our work organized and neat...which i totally cant...for example i cant keep a list of the submissions i send out like craig does it..i mean..i really tried it ...but after a while i forget to write my submission titles, the publisher and the date down...or i loose the paper i wrote it down on..loose in this case means throw it away or used the other side for a shopping list and..well..you get the point....

...so sometimes i totally forget that i have send out a story..or that i even wrote a particular story...just..gone with the wind...or i also forget that the story which i have forgotten about has been accepted by a publisher...

..so you totally can picture my puzzled face today when fedex delivered me a package from konkursbuch verlag (which is one of the leading and most arty and extremly cool erotica publishers in germany) ...i opened the package..and there were two copies of the yearbook of erotica 09/10..pretty pretty books...and i was like " awww..they got something wrong in the office because i didnt send them a story for this issue" (during the last 3 years i worked several times with konkursbuch) ...then i was sad because i knew i had to send the books back..then i thought "maybe there is a older story of mine inside..a reprint!!"..then i checked the writers bio..a b c ..d...hm..no danielle de santiago..okay..then i knew they got something wrong in the office...sad again..then i jumped up..checked the writers bios again... o p q r....s..there i was..under s like santiago...(usually the have me under d)...and inside they had my essay " beautiful shame"...horray..my book..:-)

but..back to my question today..does your mama know? your daddy? your lover? your friends? your neighbors? your children?...that you write erotica / smut / porn?

my essay "beautiful shame" is all about myself and my struggle to keep my family life and my smut writers life together...a lot people in germany read my work..but no one of my close friends or of my family...even though most of them know what i write about ...most of them dont want to read my work because they dont wanna cross a certain line between them and my naughty mind..but some of them..like for example my grandmother ..arent "allowed" to read my work.....as a example a dialogue between my granny and me:

grandmother: so..when do i finally get to read one of your books??

danielle: well..you...you..cant!

grandmother: i cant read?

danielle: no of course you can read but..

grandmother: so i can read your stuff?

danielle: no! i mean..you can read but you shouldnt read my stuff!

grandmother: i know you write dirty stuff..your sister jade told me

danielle: how nice. well..yes..they are to dirty for you to read

grandmother: do you think i live behind the moon????

crickets*

grandmother: dont think i m silly...i studied!!! i was one of the first women who were allowed to study..dont think i m stupid. i totally know what kind of dirty your stories are!

danielle: (surprised)..you..know?

grandmother: yes

danielle: ?????

grandmother: its those kind of dirty stories where the characters/narrators arent married to each other..right???

danielle: yes granny..thats what makes it so dirty..my narrators arent married...sigh*

so...tell me about how you keep smut writing and family under the same hat...

the hunters

horray! i just got the news that my breath-taking, thrilling, evilish and scary as well as hot and dark sm-story "the hunters" will appear in early 2010 in "schlagzeilen" by charon..i m so exited! i totally love every little bit by charon ..charon is a german publishing house focused on sm-related themes and schlagzeilen is germanys most important as well as most succesfull sm magazine...so its my third time to be included in one of charons books/magazines since i allready was in their forthcoming anthology "böse geschichten& schmutzige fotos" (evil stories& dirty pictures)with my story "cold, clear water" as well as once in schlagzeilen with my story "the stable"..still i cant get enough of them and hope for more charon-de santiago´ness in the future because charon is so fucking fab with all what they are doing ...

how do you..write?..and what are you doing after publishing your story?

today i have a question again for you my fellow writers..inspired by our fab alison tyler who spoke about deleting old stuff on her computer i thought about my old stuff..which still dangles along my old laptop..but thats not what i mean...when you write a story...do you take notes? most of us do...i do too..and when you finished the story..re-read it..edited it..send it out..what are you doing then..after it has been published??? i keep the notes..i keep all the edited versions..i keep the final version..i print them out..i burn them on cd...all that crap takes a lot of room to keep them in store? stock? whatever..dont mind my bad english i had my traditional martini-monday along with my fabolous serbian friend renata so i m still a bit drunk as i type this...so..still ..how do you write and how do you storage your work??? ususally you would say its enough to keep the actual book...but what if you wanna sell the story again or send it out again to publish it somewhere else? so..do you all keep notes, books, copies as well as a file or a cd of each story..or is it just silly me?